Matt Vanderboegh brings a refreshingly interesting POV in his critique of a linked article on masculinity and millennial males, here.
“The military is where the “Warrior Ethos” was pounded into your head from day one. If you were lucky and stuck around for a bit, at every turn your head would be filled with grand oaths and platitudes that taught you the basic tenets of Stoicism, mainly dealing with that bad stuff happens and you just have to man up to it. It was supposed to be a way of life to be virtuous and disciplined for your country, your community, and yourself. For the vast majority of the population that never served, I could only imagine how this mass coddling and emasculation infected everyone it touched.”
You can learn the Warrior Ethos without going in the military, so don’t think if you’re beyond enlistment age you’re screwed. You can get training, get a mentor, and have yourself placed in environments that lend themselves to the physical requirements that will underscore and cement that ethos into your being. You can also study the Great Works written by stoic warriors throughout the ages. You have control over yourself and have a great influence on young men in your life. Help them become the men they can be, and you’ll be helping build a positive force in our culture and nation. Here’s a start on this blog: The Warrior Ethos
We are in desperate need of men. We’ve got enough pussies (no, I’m not being vulgar and using slang for female genetalia; I’m using the slang term for ‘pusillanimous’ which means, basically, “coward.”
Teaching stoicism to young men is completely compatible with Christianity, as well (as some, who will look for reasons not to train up young men because of their own cowardice, will reason); all one needs do is read Paul’s letters as well as the following op-ed here.
You’re the father of a young boy? You’ve got some work to do, and he’s eagerly waiting to join you in things that he’ll find hard to do, but gain your approval as he masters them. In my own time, I never remember my son wanting not to join me when I’d go to the field to hunt, hike, fish, or otherwise practice survival skills. Same thing when I’d clean my weapons or sharpen a knife. Even when he was small, he’d sit and observe. When he’d try things, he’d fail, as all young boys learning to, but I’d make him go back and do it again until he got it right, even when he didn’t want to; even when his mother would want to shelter him from ‘mean old daddy.’ He received the foundation necessary to grow into the man he is today. Fathers, be strong enough to let your boy fail and make him go back and do the thing until he succeeds and protect him from the natural instinct of his mother to ‘make it easier.’
There was a point when I knew he’d absorbed the lessons and actually craved situations that he could participate with men: He was 16 and I was out Elk hunting with an associate, and we ran into trouble as the associate was in terrible shape, and had downed a young rag horn several miles up a river drainage. After I dressed and quartered the elk (my associate actually cried because he was afraid to do it) we hung the quarters in trees and walked back to camp; I called home and told my wife to have my son get himself ready to live on a hill for a couple days in weather that might get below zero. He showed up completely confident with the correct equipment and did himself proud. I knew from that moment that he and I could go anywhere together into the mountains. His training was hard; he was frustrated and even angry with me at times, but today, he’s a man’s man.
Your son, nephew, young cousin, neighborhood kid without a dad wants hard lessons; he needs them, for without them, in his eyes, he’ll never measure up to what he believes the standards are for being a man. And without that guidance, he’ll end up on a couch eating peanut butter and drinking water….